Since lots of people will ask, and since I’ve said these same things to the person in question, I will blog about it here.
My friend Gary Lamb resigned from his church last year after having an affair. He’s written publicly about this, admits it was wrong and is seeking counseling. Yesterday, he announced on his new blog that he is starting a new church in Canton, the same city where he started Revolution.
While I do believe in second chances and I wholeheartedly believe that God is a God of grace, this is not a wise decision. Gary’s decision will just further divide a church and result in another black eye to the Kingdom of God. I do not question the fact that God will use sinners…David became the greatest Isrealite king and a man after God’s own heart, even after his affair with a married woman. But that was after genuine repentance and restoration.
I don’t want to argue theology or how much time it takes for restoration. Those are fair discussions for another time. In this case, however, it’s a wisdom issue. It was not wise for Gary to joke on twitter about starting a new church just months after his affair and resignation. And it’s not wise for this new church to start in Canton.
Gary says that he was called to Canton, and that calling apparently trumps the calling to his previous wife and family. Can we please not act like there’s just a vocational calling? What about relational callings, like marriage? Gary says that he’s received advice from pastors, and this is no surprise…we will always find people who validate our decisions, even poor ones.
The “call of God” is the Christian version of “it’s not you…it’s me.” We claim the call of God as an excuse to do something that we really want to do, because it turns your critics into people who don’t seek God. I believe in the call of God, but there is also wisdom. There are also Biblical principles. There are also steps to restoration.
Gary mentions confirmation from friends, but he did not follow the steps to restoration outlined by his board of directors. Those trusted friends and advisers who he respected for years who laid out a plan for him were shunned, and apparently a new group of friends who have affirmed this plan have emerged.
Gary has a gift and a passion for reaching people, and I believe that God can use that gift again. I don’t wish any ill will towards Gary and I still pray for him. It just grieves me to see people do things that ultimately hurt the Kingdom of God, the people of Canton, and the reputation of pastors.